The Two Week Wait, or TWW, is the time in an infertility patient’s life when she is in limbo. It’s the 2 weeks after her insemination or IVF procedure, when she might be pregnant, but doesn’t know yet. During this time, patients don’t drink, don’t take nonfertility medications, and try (mostly unsuccessfully) to minimize stress. If they’ve had IVF, they also don’t have sex. In short, the TWW sucks.
Some people plan a vacation during this time, but if you can’t drink, and you can’t have sex, it may not be much fun. Often patients are required to return to the office to check hormone levels during this time, and traveling with medications can be problematic. Suppositories may need to be refrigerated. Injectable medications need explaining to the TSA. If there is a problem, you are far from home, your pharmacy, and your doctor. In short, a vacation during this time may be more stress-inducing than stress-relieving.
I’d suggest another tack. What you need is distraction. A shift in your mental focus. Is there something you’ve wanted to learn to do? Salsa dancing, knitting, writing workshop? This is a good time to try something new. You’ll meet new people who don’t know what’s going on in your life, so they won’t be asking you if you’re pregnant yet.
Another option is to throw yourself into work. You may have been taking some time off for your treatments. This can be a good time to take on a project that requires your concentration and energy. Likewise, you can tackle a project at home that you’ve been putting off. Once you aren’t going to the doctor 3 times a week, you will feel like you have a lot more free time. It’s a good idea to plan for this gap so that you can actually look forward to the TWW instead of just getting through it.
Finally, let’s talk about your entertainment choices. As your doctor, I would have you stay away from anything with babies, young families, young children, or even romantic comedies. You absolutely don’t want tear-jerkers or “drama”. Sex comedies with older people are okay. Think “As Good As it Gets” or “It’s Complicated”. You need a little jaded humor right now. “Austin Powers” is crude, silly, funny, and has nothing to do with kids. “24” reruns and other action films are going to be right up your alley. Even though “Harry Potter” is about kids, they’re older kids and the movies have nothing to do with early childhood. Remember, if this works, you’re seeing nothing but “Barney” and “Blues Clues” for the next few years. A little sex and violence will be completely out of your reach.
Oh, and if you get invited to a baby shower during the TWW? Tell them you have the stomach flu. It’s the perfect excuse. It’s over in 24 hours and no one will want to be around you. I’ll vouch for you.